Would I be able to get emancipated? and Do you think it would be a good choice?
I'm 16 years of age currently living in Oregon, I will be 17 on March 22nd.
Over the past maybe year or so it has felt like I'm living in hell.
My parents don't seem to care much about me, They say they do but they seem to show otherwise a lot.
My mom is the only one currently working and she spends most of her time, either in a tanning bed, bowling, out drinking, bowling or working.
We never have money for anything, and she always gets what she needs but never asks if I need anything.
She always volunteers me to baby sit her friends kids, and when they pay me they take it and they say they will pay me back I wait and I ask and they get defensive and say "We drive you all over the place so basically we shouldn't have to pay you back" and I only ask them to take me somewhere when they are already going out.
and nothing is ever good enough for my mom.
and as for my dad, he constantly calls me a retard and makes me feel bad about myself, He spends money on ciggerettes, He goes through a pack a day, so $5 multiplied by lets say 30 days.
and he basically just cares about my mom, and he just cares about pleasing her.
the smallest things set him off as well.
Our house is disgusting, I can't walk out of m bedroom without stepping in dog pee, and the ceiling leaks everything is just broken down and it smeels horrible all the time no matter how much we clean.
and my mom takes it out on everyone.
and my dad makes me have his back because he sleeps until the last minute before my mom gets home, and who lies for him I have to.
on to another bad thing, I was in the hospital for m appendiz swelling in May, they didn't take it out and one night I was having sharp pains like I was having then, and I was in tears I went and told my parents and my mom says "oh jeez" in a tone which was like "wow here we go with the wanting attention again from the cry baby" and my dad always tells me "take medicine and don't worry about it" I got bit by a spider 3 times on my tummy and it was getting worse it took a half an hour to get my mom to take me to get checked because she didn't want to drive.
and she constanly puts me down about my teeth, skin and weight, and today she told my dad to call a doctor because she thinks I need mental help.
I'm currently in the process of getting my GED.
and as I said I will be 17 march 22nd, so I was wondering would I most likely be able to get emancipated, or able to move out without being a run away.
I have a place to live, and could get a job, and as I said I should have my ged by my birthday or sooner.
Anyone have any answers or opinions?
4 Responses for "Would I be able to get emancipated? and Do you think it would be a good choice?"
Best Answer – Chosen by Voters I really feel bad for you living in those conditions.If you have a decent place to live and get your GEDI see no reason why you couldn't be on your own.It won't be easy and it is very difficult to get a jobmaking good money with only a ged.You would have to have a car to go to and from work,and you would need insurance for the car.I wish you good luck and hope you are able to get out.Blessings toyou. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
I would say if that's what you want to do go for it. You seem like a very determined person. If you work hard you can make such a better life for yourself than you could with your parents. I would say you have all the right reasons to get an emancipation.
I was emancipated at 16 with parental consent. Years later, after I grew up and matured, I realized I was the problem not them. I'm not saying it's you and not them. I'm just saying you may see things different in years to come. That being said, there are ways to get out if your story is 100% true in regard to the health hazards you listed. Urine has ammonia and is a health hazard. A leaking ceiling causes mold which is a serious health hazard. Second hand smoke is a serious health hazard. These hazards can be used in your favor in moving out if you have a decent place to go. You can tell Mom and Dad to fix these hazards or your moving to a safer place. If they refuse, and then say you can't leave or they will tell the police you ran away, then you can threaten (be prepared to do it) to go to social services and tell them why you need to move. If you have to go to social services, also tell them of the mental abuse you listed. You have to decide to either live with it until your 18 if it is that bad, or stand up for yourself and go to the proper authorities. That's my good comments. The bad is towards the end of your story. "Could get a job" tells me something about you as well. If you can get a job, why haven't you? I have worked since the age of 14. That's partly why I was emancipated. I had a full time job. Your close to being legally an . Why aren't you working? You would not only have money but you would be out of the house for hours a day. Maybe things wouldn't seem so bad if you were out working away from them everyday. Hope you get your GED and life gets better!
I aged out of foster care, but was trying to get emancipated before i aged out and here is what I learned: you have to have a job already, a way of reliable transportation, and I think even your own place already.Now, I'm not sure if this applies to you because:1) I was dealing with foster care rules, which do differ from normal situations2) I think its different in every stateSo, your best bet would be to call your county's DHS (Department of Human Services) and ask a social worker the rules and procedures of emancipation. But do be careful because with the way your life is going they might try to get an address to come inspect and if it is really as bad as you describe then they would probably take you into state custody and you will be a foster child– which is 90% usually a terrible f&cking life. However, I live in a poor part of the south, foster care might be different for you where you are at. who knows.
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