Why is pale skin considered ugly in the gay community?

It's like every gay guy I know is obsessed with tanning and being tan, except for one's who already naturally have dark skin. I'm honestly very proud of my extremely pale skin, and go to great lengths to maintain it. Does anyone else not get what's up with this standard of beauty? Tanning makes you wrinkle sooner, makes your skin feel like leather later on, makes sun spots appear, and gives you skin cancer…what's so good about that? I think whatever skin color you're born with, is the prettiest color for you.