WHY DO I HIDE MY TRUE SELF FROM EVERYONE?
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14
Mar
WHY DO I HIDE MY TRUE SELF FROM EVERYONE?
okay, was a very sensitive person. i cared for everything, and everyone. i hated seeing people hurt. i was shy and quiet. i was very weak (physically and emotionally). people made fun or me and took advantage of me (even my best friends). so i decided to change. i just woke up one morning, sick of crying and feeling sad all the time, and so i changed just like that. i grew a thicker skin, i learned to take jokes, and to be an all round more stable person. but i grew it too thick. i became an insensitive *****. i hated everyone, everything, and even myself. i hated what i had become, but i couldn't just snap out of it. it was too hard. little by little i became a bit nicer, until i got where i am today. i am nice to people i dont know that well, but to people i know well i am still a horrible *****. we argue all the time, and i still get reall upset, but no matter how hard i try i cannot cry infront of other people. it seems impossible. then i got depressed. i was like it for ages before i finally told someone. then they told other people and i am on the road to recovery. but still i feel realll sad and hopless alot of the time. i just want to know, why when i look deep down into my heart, i feel nothing. and i hate it. i want to know who i am, and what my true feelings are, and why i hide them from everyone (including myself).
4 Responses for "WHY DO I HIDE MY TRUE SELF FROM EVERYONE?"
Not sure this will definitely solve this for you, but it might help. These are some tips from my personal experience, since I found out that lot of what you just wrote was true for me.1) Don't joke to hurt anyone, but to make them smile. Don't try to make others bad, just because of your experience.2) Self confidence is not permanent. Thanks god! It can be lost, but CAN BE GAINED!3) It's OK to be sensitive! Since you sense the bad things deeply, you can also sense the good things deeply. What would've made you feel good if you hated seeing people hurt? To help them. But first start with yourself. If you're week physically, start lifting some weights, get a personal trainer, just do something about it. The thing is you can get strong.4) I think you're still in the past with the fact that your friends took advantage of you. That's maybe why you're "horrible" now to people that are closer to you. Because the pain came from your friends in the past. I might be wrong, but this is my perspective.5) Talking about what you really feel, not just wearing a mask, is a GREAT way. Helped me tremendously when I began to talk about it with my parents first, then I became more open to other people too. Then I made some really good friends, we talked about this stuff and I got great advices from them. And realized that people can be close to me and be friendly and willing to help. That breaks the friends–>hurting connection.6) Take responsibility for what happened to you. If people took advantage of you, you made something wrong – you let it happen. If you put the power to the other people for what happened to you, you're not able to change anything.7) Be honest. With anyone, including (and most importantly) to yourself. Start writing down your thoughts and write what you really thing, even if it's bad. It helps a lot, because as you're writing it down, you're summarizing the thoughts and feelings and it then starts to make sense.. and it's no longer such a mess in your head or heart. But really, if you didn't do it so far, do it. Nobody needs to know. It's just your stuff. I just realized it helped me to build the defense wall again – the line that divides what's your personal stuff (and nobody other's business) from your public stuff. I just loved the feeling of privacy – that what I write down is what only I can read again.8) After some time, you'll realize that the solution is amazingly simple.9) Go find your psychologist. It helps! If you don't like him or her, you can go looking for another one.10) Also go to a local bookstore, self-help section, and get some books that you think may help. You'll find great tips and strategies for living your life. Don't expect to suddenly find a final solution in one of those, but it's a good start and you can learn a lot.Good luck!
Haha I love Green Day too!But, who do you want to be?Take different aspects of that thick skinned and thin skinned persona of yourself that would make you feel best. That will be your happy medium.
I have the same problem as you I don't know who the real me is just yet but I'm beginning to find out which is pretty cool. Source(s): myself
You can find a happy medium ground. you've touched both sides, now look for one in the middle.
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