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14 Mar
Trying to help my older sister who is being abused.?
5 ? years ago, her boyfriend was thrown in jail for beating her up (severely). It was considered a felony and he was on probation, took anger management classes, etc. I never had faith that he would become normal. He has a drinking problem and is pretty much a loser. He hasn’t bathed his two children in at least 2 years. He pays half my sisters mortgage and half the day care. She pays for everything else. Groceries, clothing, partys, EVERYTHING. And she’s still always broke. She works full time and picks the kids up after school, takes them to school – after school activities, you name it. He does nothing. He works, comes home and drinks.
My sister called me last night (Sunday – Super Bowl night). She was crying. She said that he ripped her a new one because the chicken wings she made him were horrible. He then continued to call her every name in the boo (in front of all the kids) and when they went to their rooms, he bit her. He broke her skin. She called me telling me she is crying out for help. She doesn’t know what to do but she needs him out of her life. I asked her if he’s touched her since they have lived in Colorado and she said yet. I asked her how many times, and she said.. a couple dozen.
3 Responses for "Trying to help my older sister who is being abused.?"
I agree, call for help and report the man. I understand that she would be scared to let him go because of money, but she'll be taken care of. I hope this helps!
Call the cops, and have her sent to a woman's shelter, or move back home. If she stays with him, it is possible that he will kill her. You need to move, and fast!
You need to tell the police. This guy is getting dangerous! Never mind the money, your sister needs help and she needs it NOW. You are a lovely sister doing this for her and caring for her so much, and you need to help her out. You should get the police involved ASAP and get this guy sent down- not only to help your sister, but to help women overall. Men do this because they can and it is disgusting what he is doing. It needs to stop. If it doesn't, anything could happen to her. My heart goes out to her, and my advice goes to you- get the police involved, get this guy thrown in jail and get some financial backing from the state. Maybe your sister could shop around for a job that's better paid as well?You've not only got your sister to think about, remember (although she is the priority), you've got to think of her kids as well. If he lands her in hospital, what're they going to do? And what if he starts on them? No, you need to sort this guy out once and for all.The way in which you can help her is by getting this guy locked away to protect her and her family and helping them to start a new life away from them. She is not a bad person or a bad mother for breaking up her previous family- it sounds like it was his fault anyway, who can blame the woman when the man gets like this? (not trying to be sexist, it can be the other way round too)- and you need to get her to understand this.I hope you get this sorted out and it comes out with a better life for her and for her kids. You're a very caring person to want to help her, my full respect. I'm not sure I'd be able to.Just take my advice, what he is doing is shocking and he shouldn't be allowed his freedom for this. Get the police involved, they will be able to help.Good luck sweetie, my thoughts are with all of you
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