Should i cut her out of my life?
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14
Mar
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Should i cut her out of my life?
So i met my fathers great grandmother about 7 years ago but she is very offensives and has no respects for others or there feelings.My father introduced her to our live because he made a promise to his mother that he would take care of her.
I understand she is " set in her ways" and the chance that she changes is very little.
A couple of days ago i went over to help her do the laundry and clean a bit she said to me you know i love your hair( i have wavy brown hair and am light skinned but not as much as my sister)so much better then your frizzy haired bignosed sister(has curly brown hair and is very light skinned and nose to match her face) but its a shame your not as light skinned as her, while she was saying this i was just shocked i mean she has said many racist comments before and has been very belittling about the fact that my father married my mother a African women ad the fact that we speak our mother language and pretty much don't consider our self to be white at all.
But this remark/insult has pushed me to my limit and i snapped and called her old manipulative bitter racist woman and that she should just die because no one cares in which she said at least am not a mutt, now i didn't straight a way walked out i called my mother and she said do what you came for and respect your grandmother and apologise for insulting her and saying these things to her which i did i finished my chores and cooked her dinner didn't say a word in the process and waited till my train came went home.
I want to cut her out of my life but my dad says pleas just wait she will soon pass away and lets do what we can until then for her.My mother agrees with my father as she is brought up to love and care for your elders in there time of need.
What would you have done and is it better to cut her out of my life?
4 Responses for "Should i cut her out of my life?"
i think it is terrible in what she is doing to you and that is not good for your confidence i say don't cut her out of your life stand up for yourself she might be mad and say it to your dad but you say to him you don't need comments like that in your life and that you have no intentions in putting up with it anymore and if he wants you to help her there has to be give in take and that you no longer want to listen to that from her so next time she insults you or any member of your family put her in her place good luck
She was very rude to you and probably talks to other people that way too, older people are from a different generation and I have found SOME of them to be quite rude and blunt as well. It doesn't mean that we have to tolerate it though.I would say don't bother to go around any more and help her but that would be mean and bringing yourself down to her level, don't forget she is an old woman and she can't do as much for herself now. As soon as she comes out with any nasty comments though, interrupt loudly and firmly and say that you are not there to listen to that kind of stuff and get on with your work. The sooner you have done your jobs and seen she is all right, you can go again.What about if your family had some kind of rota where you all took it in turns to go to her then it would free up some days for you where you didn't have to go there at all. I think this would be what I would do, I couldn't have it on my conscience that I had left an old person without any help and support no matter how rude and nasty they were. I would soon tell them to pack it in and ignore it as best I could.Good luck x
You don't need people like that in your life. Cut the wagon right out.
You are going to hear these kind of remarks through out your life. It is time to developanother attitude that will not allow you to respond to these words. Your greatgrandmother could have a medical condition that makes her blurt out what evershe is thinking at the time. She may not even be aware of what she is saying. Justlet her comments go in one ear and out the other.
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