15 Responses for "not my child?? what to do?"

1. lady gaga March 14th, 2010 at 6:01 am 1

   amazing how a child can change your views on life. You need to follow your heart man toss your brain away and just let your body do the actions,. you'll get your answer! this post made me want to cry your so thoughtful! wish more peeps were like ya!

2. Vanessa Hudgens March 14th, 2010 at 6:01 am 2

   alright,so think of it like this, if you were that kid would you want to be in that situation and not have a dad,or have a dad and not be able to see him.i really dont know what to say,like thats the only good thing i can think of,but i just wanted to answer.

3. taylor swift March 14th, 2010 at 6:01 am 3

   I think you have already answered your own question and need a push in the direction you want to go.Pride can be a horse pill to swallow.The lad can have your name if you marry her.Best wishes on your decision and good luck

4. justin bieber March 14th, 2010 at 6:01 am 4

   You answered your own question.IF you feel that you can be faithful to her this time, marry her and adopt the child. Source(s): God Bless you, and good luck to you and your family.

5. taylor swift March 14th, 2010 at 6:01 am 5

   Only you know the truth that's in your heart. Follow your heart. It will lead you in the right direction.

6. taylor lautner March 14th, 2010 at 6:01 am 6

   That isn't pride that is telling you that, it is common sense.

7. lady gaga March 14th, 2010 at 6:01 am 7

   run forest…. run!!!

8. justin bieber March 14th, 2010 at 6:01 am 8

   Man, you can still be a father figure to that kids even without having any biological connection. You made a bond with him- why don't you see what happens? He;s too young to be affected if you do decide it's not working out, and if you two still love each other and you think you can make the commitment, why don;t you go for it? Poor kid, it;s not his fault and make sure the kid knows the truth one day about what happened- howhe was conceived because it never goes right if they find out too late or if they are told a lie.

9. lady gaga March 14th, 2010 at 6:01 am 9

   could you and your ex just be friends for a while – and you can help with the child, and if you can be together as friends first – then maybe you could reconsider going out?and if you can be friends, and are friends, you could still be a positive influence on the kids life

10. miley cyrus March 14th, 2010 at 6:01 am 10

    It seems as though she is using you for your money and to have you help out with the child. She clearly lied to you about the child being yours and so that obviously means she was also cheating on you – double whammy! Run in the opposite direction fast! She's not worth it. You'll have a child of your own someday I'm sure. For now, you can help her and the child by helping them find the real father and getting him to do child support. Good luck and don't do any foolish! Source(s): Experience.

11. miley cyrus March 14th, 2010 at 6:01 am 11

    If you love the woman, stay with her. If not, just be available as an uncle and a mentor. Don't worry about pride. Don't marry her just because of the kid. But if you love her, it's certainly ok to marry her.

12. selena gomez March 14th, 2010 at 6:01 am 12

    You sound like a great guy and I understand why she would want someone like you to be her baby's father. I also understand that this is not the ideal situation for you and it would be robbing you of your opportunities it settle down into a family you didn't make and didn't ask for. If you feel close to this child and care about him, maybe you could talk to your ex about being a part of his life, but not being his father…..more like an uncle. That way you can be there for this baby (which I think would be a wonderful thing for you to do!), but you also wouldn't be closing doors in your own life. Good luck. There should be more guys like you out there.

13. lady gaga March 14th, 2010 at 6:01 am 13

    ok, first of all, you say she is the girl of your dreams but you wanna enjoy your life??if i found the perfect person i wouldn't give a damn about "enjoying life", and this baby, how did he get into this mess, i feel so sorry for him, if i was in your place i would never leave him, his future is gonna be a living hell, he needs two parents right now………….its your choice though,…….here's a hurt woman, a soon to be hurt child who nobody will want, you love the girl, you love the child, but do you love yourself more? its up to you, this a question of the heart………..look within your heart and find the answer..Sometimes we have to make sacrifices to do the right thing, not the right thing for us…….I hope you make the right decision, whatever it is……….best of luck..=)

14. justin bieber March 14th, 2010 at 6:01 am 14

    This is simple. You have two options.Option one- Its not your baby. so just leave.Option two- You love the baby. Be a father. You said that girl is the girl of your dreams but your not ready for a relationship.. be her friend, for now and see how it goes later.

15. miley cyrus March 14th, 2010 at 6:01 am 15

    So ,Let me get this straightYou love her, except that you really don'tHe's your son , except that he really isn't Is that about right ?Edit: BTW Just where does the boy's real father fit in to the picture ? Source(s): I truly believe if you apply one small drop of common sense to this situation you can figure it out on your own.**** And let me add this. In some states if you act in the capacity of a father, even if the child is not yours, you can be held liable for child support for 18 years.It's all about what is best for the child , even if that means screwing you.Check your state law.