16 Responses for "My wife's self body image tends to frustrate/annoy me?"

1. Vanessa Hudgens March 26th, 2010 at 3:45 am 1

   Best Answer – Chosen by Voters Do everything you're doing except getting annoyed about it. You can't fix the way she sees herself, not with all the compliments in the world.

2. taylor lautner March 26th, 2010 at 3:45 am 2

   For some reason your wife has low self esteem! Sometimes people are just born with it- they think they will never be good enough.. Does she have a complex of some kind>> An older sister who put her down when she was young Or parent.. Maybe an ex BF?? Tell her what you just wrote here- Tell her it hurts your feelings when you give her a sincere compliment and she tosses it back in your face! Tell her it feels like she is calling you a liar or does not trust you.I was like your wife at one point in my life. Until one day A person complimented me very sweetly- and instead of saying ThankYou- I said 'Oh, No I'm not- I'm ugly and this dress is old"The person snapped back at me and said- " A slap in the face would have been kinder! I was being sincere and you in turn made me feel like a jerk!I never realized my low opinion of myself was hurting not just me- but others as well. Maybe your wife needs to realize this too?? Tell her tonight!

3. taylor lautner March 26th, 2010 at 3:45 am 3

   well im not saying its your fault, but consider small things you may do without even noticing that would make her feel bad. if you're constantly talking about how beautiful other women are or looking at porn all the time that could easily damage her confidence or make her feel like she doesnt meet up with the women you really want.what you should do is compliment her a lot and never say anything at all that could be misinterpereted. for example "okay" is not the correct adjective to use when describing her appearance or outfits. also maybe have more sex so she feels more desired, if thats not an issue already then tell her she's beautiful before, during, and after

4. selena gomez March 26th, 2010 at 3:45 am 4

   You are a good supportive partner, and what you can try is either reverse psychology (like mention your best physical feature that she admires the most, and say that you don't like it and you might seriously consider doing something about it and try to sound serious not sarcastic)the other thing is you tell her that fake big breasts are nice to the eyes but a big disappointment to the hands! or try to say something like this, hold her so tight n say: YOU IMPERFECTIONS TURN ME ON OH MY GOD! and kiss her passionately

5. Vanessa Hudgens March 26th, 2010 at 3:45 am 5

   Hmm insecure, woman . . .You must be ridiculously good looking. She doesn't really think she looks bad, she's just scared cause you look good and well she's worried…. Go buy these books "For Women Only" and "For Men Only" by Feldhahn. . . they are really fast reads, one for you and one for her. They really have some great information on how to deal with this and many other issues. Or you could just try to be uglier! LOL JK Read the books!

6. justin bieber March 26th, 2010 at 3:45 am 6

   Sometimes us woman, are super hard on ourselves. This honestly is her thinking that she doesn't look as good for you as she could. My husband tells me the same, he tells me I am beautiful and honestly to me his opinion is the only one that counts to me, however I don't always feel that way. Don't get frustrated with her, this is how we try to keep ourselves up for our men.

7. justin bieber March 26th, 2010 at 3:45 am 7

   Mayby she suffers from BDD, but if you keep telling her how sexy she is daily, she will mayby start beliving it.But she will most likely always want to change something about herself as she gets older, is just how it is.At least she cares about how she looks, and you should be proud of that!

8. selena gomez March 26th, 2010 at 3:45 am 8

   All she wants is sympathy and attention, which its pathetic. You cant fix the problem, her self image. But you can choose to not give in when she acts like that. Next time she says something about her body like that, just agree with her. Shell never say it again.

9. selena gomez March 26th, 2010 at 3:45 am 9

   There isn't really much you can do most girls are like that just keep doing what you are doing she ll come around soon and she ll see what you see.

10. lady gaga March 26th, 2010 at 3:45 am 10

    you know i do the same thing..were just not all that happy with our self..just let it go through one ear and out the other..she it only saying to her self and you just happen to be hearing it..

11. lady gaga March 26th, 2010 at 3:45 am 11

    Tell her she is beautiful everyday before she says that stuff…Then maybe she wont say any of that stuff and she will feel more attractive

12. lady gaga March 26th, 2010 at 3:45 am 12

    Do u live in California? gee. Tell her to see a counselor about body dysmorphic disorder.

13. justin bieber March 26th, 2010 at 3:45 am 13

    This is part of your job description. Women are always that way, and men are there to be reassuring. Get used to it.

14. Vanessa Hudgens March 26th, 2010 at 3:45 am 14

    Pay for her boob job and a Skin peel!

15. justin bieber March 26th, 2010 at 3:45 am 15

    Damn man!look in the mirror boy. As cute as you are you'd have to expect a little insecurity on her part don't ya think?

16. taylor lautner March 26th, 2010 at 3:45 am 16

    Sweety unfortunatley there is really nothing that you can do, except support her and continue to make her feel beautiful. She has low self asteem, for whatever reason, and it is hard(regardless of what anyone says posotive about you) to see it yourself. I too have this problem, I have been told I am an attractive woman, however I can point out atleast 3 things that I would change about myself, and then once those are changed I am sure I would find something else. This is what society has come to these days and it is sad:( I think that the only way for her to become confident again is to gain some self worth, she needs to start doing things for herself…..it is really great that you support her, just know that you should have a little patience with her, it may seem rediculous to you, however it is often times something you cant just shut off for whatever reason. Something(probably from childhood, or a bad relationship) made her this way. Let me guess she was probably very confident when you met her right? It is scary when you let someone in completley, that is when I get the most insecure…….know that she loves you and it is by no means your fault, continue to support her, and if she wants a boob job by all means let her have it you know! This is a really touph one, becuase it is something(a shift) that she needs to find with in her self. It is sweet you try to help continue to be her support!! Live right and great things will happen in your life! Wish you both all the luck:)