8 Responses for "My physical appearance is destroying my life need serous help?"

1. Vanessa Hudgens March 14th, 2010 at 4:02 am 1

   I wonder if your over weight or if you just have facial features that are not considered "pretty" by this society if the former you can diet and exercise. If the later then you must learn to accept yourself. I know how tough it is, I use to be pretty good looking but now women younger than me just look the other way or smurk because I got old and got no hair and picked up some age spots in prominent places. I know its a lot tougher when your young. I sounds like your a teenager and god I know how it is to be an outcast as I was an outcast in the small town where I lived. All the other kids had friends and girlfriends and cars and parents that seemed to care more. My mother told me I was as "dumb as a post" I'm and old man now and I still feel that sting. For some of us it is harder than for others. Not that it helps much but those beautiful people have all sorts of problems of their own just look at Hollywood how many times did J lo have to try before she got a man to stick with her. Poor spoiled rich people are miserable too. But that doesn't help you. I don't know what your religious views are but it was helpful to me to understand that the one who made the world made me and the world is full of both beautiful and not so beautiful things and people. There are lots of people with skin disorders and facial unattractive features that make them gross. You are not alone. You have a right to be here among the rest of the humans no matter what face you inherited from your scum bag father. By the way my dad ran off and left his young bride with four kids as well, we had to fend for ourselves. For me faith has been both a blessing and a curse but if you were to say God made me I have a purpose on earth, I don;t know what it is, it hurts like hell to be ugly but it is a burden that I have to carry and by doing so someone else is happier because they don't have to do it. thats sucky advice but it's all I have and I my heart does go out to you I'm sorry your hurting.Maybe you could go to a mall or some fancy store and have them do a facial on you so you can see what can be done by those who are trained in making ugly people beautiful?I have known some pretty ugly mugs who came out of that beauty parlor all spiffed up and you might be amazed by the proper application of make up and a good hair cut for your features. Even if you don't have any money you could go look. Also look in the phone book for Mary K and Avon representatives in your area they may be willing to come out and show you some makeup tips with the hope of making a sale and they usually have rally's. You could say you are interested in learning about their business and got to the rallies. You will see people who are pretty but just as many and maybe more that aren't. Moreover you will see how s act and behave towards others away from a school setting, it may comfort you to find that there is life after adolescence, life in which you will find it easier to exist. You will in time come to accept that you are different and learn to live with yourself as I have. I was better looking than I am now and I don't like the way people look at me now that I am old. But I have always been strange to others my thoughts and the way I behave in public have often brought heartache to myself and those whom I love. On 911 I was weeping confiding in a loved one that though I was a prosperous business owner there was no place in this society for the person I really am. I felt all alone. I still struggle with my uniqueness, but you know what **** um they can't take it.

2. Vanessa Hudgens March 14th, 2010 at 4:02 am 2

   I don't think that you are ugly, but still it's not excuse for not living you life!

3. selena gomez March 14th, 2010 at 4:02 am 3

   tl;dr

4. justin bieber March 14th, 2010 at 4:02 am 4

   When you have a dream to follow in life none of this matters because you give every single thought, strength, time and effort to complete it.I could imagine this hurting a lot, but all this is to build character, make you someone.Remember everything happens for a reason.You've got to think on the bright side at least you don't have a terminal disease or live in a poverty stricken country. I suggest that you look Nick Vujicic on youtube, he was born without any arms or legs and he will just change your whole perspective of thinking.

5. Vanessa Hudgens March 14th, 2010 at 4:02 am 5

   sweetie. i hope you feel better soon.people are cruel. most people are shallow. but the rare ones who are NOT shallow, are people you want to keep as friends. i actually dont know how you look like, but you dont seem like an ugly person to me.your worth is based not on looks. can you tell us your passions. what can you do for hours that it feels like minutes.what are your hobbies. do you go to animal shelters or hospitals to do volunteer work.how do you make yourself useful to yourself and others.on youtube watch a video by "Nick Vujincic". He's an amazing guy who can tell you how to cope with life based on PERSPECTIVE.thanks for reading:)

6. taylor swift March 14th, 2010 at 4:02 am 6

   I can relate to how you feel as I either feel like that or the EXACT opposite. I think I understand how you feel about the main care of people is physical appearance. I used to weigh 190 pounds at 12 years old, I was constantly mocked because of it. It didn't help that I had(and still have) bad social anxiety. Now im 6ft and 15 years old, I weigh 155(a lot of it is muscle) and soon I plan to weigh 135. Then maybe I will be comfortable with myself. I guess basically live for yourself not for others.

7. lady gaga March 14th, 2010 at 4:02 am 7

   this is honestly how ive been feeling for the past yr. i dont want it to go to far. i feel you when you say you dont want to go to school and when you hear them laugh you think its cause of you, yeah i feel that way to, cause im asian & people around me are mainly hispanics & blacks, and whites.i havent gone out either but ive had boyfriends and people tell me im pretty, ive never really gottn to 'sexy' but im pretty. and sometimes, you just got to be easier on yourself.workout if you feel that you want a better body and be healthy & i know you'll find someone to have something in common with.i hate my life to but life can be cool as ***, if you make it.

8. justin bieber March 14th, 2010 at 4:02 am 8

   I'm so sorry you feel so terribly. I would suggest talking to someone could help you. You might find out that something else is going on. Right now you might think everyone is looking at you and seeing what you see, but they aren't. They are busy thinking about themselves.You sound like you are in a very dark place right now, but there is a way out. Hug your self. Tell your self you're pretty even if you don't' believe it.You will START to beleive it and then you will see it!