Is the way the look (ugly / beautiful) mostly in your control?

Hi :D ,

I was just wondering is how ugly or beautiful you are mostly in your control?

Am 16 and to be honest when I look in the mirror I don't really like what I see but sometimes I think I look ok… and this got me thinking. If you take care of yourself and get tanned and spike your hair do those things make a girl attracted to you? Don't worry I understand beauty lies within but I thought the better I think I look the better my mood, confidence and self esteem is :) . I was thinking about this one day and I thought, wait, if someone thinks they ugly they will have a low self esteem and won't take good care to look good, but if they do they'll put effort in to look they best all the time. Like for example, I used to only shave once a week now I do 3 times a week, I wear designer clothes, I spike up my hair, I wear a chain and take care of my skin, now don't get me wrong im not stupid but I don't think I used to do this because I thought I was ugly and didn't believe in myself to put any effort into looking good but im fine now.

So, Are looks mainly to do with things that you can change (have control of) like spiking your hair and getting tanned and stuff, or is it the shape of your face and nose and eyes etc?

Thanks so much :D