It's something I feel horrible about, but I find it very attractive to see a girl in pantyhose and high heels (assuming the outfit is classy and conservative). I don't know what it is, but seeing a girl wearing them just really turns me on and draws my attention to her legs. It makes me fantasize about things like giving her affectionate hugs and cuddling, and sincerely complimenting her beauty (remember though, I don't just do that to anyone). I just feel so wrong about it.

What makes it so shameful for me is the fact that I don't want to treat women as objects of pleasure, and I don't want to imply that I'm some kind of pervert – because I'm not. I never refer to a girl as "hot" or "sexy" in a conversation with anyone, and when they say those words, I just smile and nod – but my vocabulary uses "beautiful" instead (though obviously I won't just tell a girl she's beautiful unless we're close). I would never chase after a girl just to get into her pants. I will treat her with the respect that any human being deserves.

Since the dawn of civilization, women have been exploited, patronized, unappreciated, and just generally disrespected by society. It's true that not every guy is rude to girls, not every girl is innocent, and it's not as bad as it used to be – but there is still room for improvement. For example, there aren't nearly as many gentlemen as there used to be – whatever happened to chivalry and good manners? Are guys who open doors and pull out chairs no longer charming to girls? Whatever happened to that? And then of course there are those husbands who come home to their wife who worked all day to cook and clean like a traditional housewife (which is becoming less common – I think that's a good thing), and they just gobble down their dinner and sit their fat @sses in front of a TV screen watching the football game, screaming out to their wife for a beer and not giving her any real attention or concern, or even a simple thank you. Whenever I see women exposing too much cleavage, or posing provocatively for porn, or selling their bodies for money, I always ask myself, "does she know how it feels to be loved by a man for the person she is?" I've never dated anyone yet (fear of rejection), but when I do, my focus will be on befriending the girl.

This straight, agnostic, hetero-romantic 16 year old is above sexism. I like it more when girls don't show off too much skin, and I'd pay more attention to hair and eyes than to boobs and @ss anyday. So why do I have this attraction that downplays my moral values? Is having a fetish disrespectful towards women?