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15 Mar
I'm jealous of my perfect younger sister?
I, on the other hand, am not as blessed. I am short and a bit thick (kind of "stumpy") and she is tall, lithe, and lean; we're the same height right now. When I was her age, I had horrible, horrible acne and it has gotten better with time but I still have pretty flawed skin, while hers has remained perfect. I get bad eczema and she doesn't, I have a chubby, round face and hers is cute and heart-shaped. She's even the only one who doesn't have to wear glasses in our ENTIRE family, while I've worn them since I was five. Also, I was teased and lonely growing up (and am still not-so-confident to this day) because of how I looked and how debilitatingly shy I was. She has never lacked in confidence or friends, and is one of the popular girls I always longed to be when I was her age.
I know it all sounds so stupid and trivial to be depressed over this, especially since she's my younger sister, but it's actually harder BECAUSE she's my younger sister. I feel like, as the older one, I should be the one setting the example. But I feel inferior to her (and I know this has to do with my self-esteem issues as much as anything else). I compare myself to her even more since we're related, and I can't help but feel like life is so unfair because she got everything and I got nothing
What can I do?
9 Responses for "I'm jealous of my perfect younger sister?"
Best Answer – Chosen by Voters Ok so your 13 year old sister is cute and knows how to use it. Let her and be happy for her. You on the other hand have learned how to survive life. You will be a successful , who knows if your sister will?If there are things about your life and yourself you don't like, do something about it. Stop judging yourself by how your baby sister looks.
im sorry. that must be hard. I dont know what else to say though.
Talk to her or your parents about it. Get a hot new look! Get stylish clothes, a cool new haircut, and if necessary, try to lose a few pounds. I have a situation like that with a friend-she's the gorgeous one, perfect everything, perfect skin, hair, body, and teeth, and while I'm still known for being pretty, I have braces and occasional noticeable pimples, meanwhile, she hasn't had a blemish. Ever. I hope I helped, and I hope you understand how I relate, and…this is the best answer.
If it's hurting you on the inside, it's not trivial. It's quite relevant! I have a younger sister that I used to feel similar about. And believe me she's not arrogant in the least either. She's the kindest person in the world and would give you her heart if she thought you needed it. It seemed like the guys I liked always liked her but she was never interested in them. However, what I came to realize was that I was allowing my own poor self esteem to hinder me from being who God truly destined me to be. Once I got past that hurdle with God's help and patience, I learned that everything I did not cherish about myself was everything that made me as extraordinary and beautiful as I already was(I'm not bragging by any means as I don't have the right to). You're extraordinary and beautiful too! You're sister is just more confident, NOT MORE SPECIAL by any means. I was also rejected and picked on when my self esteem was lower, but that does not justify the people who picked on me by any means. Forgive them and move on because you can. God will handle them. You'll be in my prayers! God Bless you and keep you're head up! You are not a second class citizen and you're just as valuable as your little sister! If men your age don't recognize that, it's their problem. Focus on your own self worth and happiness and when the time is right, God will send the right person your way.
Don't be jealous, be proud. I understand that may be easier said than done, but she is your sister. "Don't waist your time on jealousy, sometimes your ahead, sometimes your not" –Advice to live by Source(s): http://www.wimp0o0com/liveadvice/
ok so hears what i think try wearing contacts instead of glasses start extersing a few times a week for about half an hour adn start eating somewhat healthier and soon you would be different now if your serious about it you have to stick to your plan and not give up don't get depressed over it the results are slow. get a new wardrobe and take care of your self and you have got the brains get into college and get a good job theres nothing to be jealous about
that's intense…you should take this live example into consideration that EVERYONE is different, and as cliche as it may sound-everyone is 'UNIQUE' in his/her own way. i totally get where you're coming from and why these feeling are deriving within you, but you must stop- now. you need to be thankful for who you are- for being healthy, for being smart and clever, for having a promising future a head of you, etc.life is challenging and nothing is perfect- as much as you'd like to think ur sister is perfect- believe me, that it isn't true. what if g-d forbid she grew sick- would you be less jealous? why is it that people wish bad things for others, even their own family members? be happy for her that she has an easy time getting along in school, and that she has a beautiful frame- and in the meantime, you COULD set good examples as an older sister, by helping her with hw, projects, talking to her about her personal life and giving suggestions- i'm sure you have a lot of things to offer. explore who you are, and be the best that you can be. looking over you shoulder at other ppl throughout your life will only leave you unsatisfied and bitter. hope i helped, and good luck .
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Hey, don't worry about it. she's your younger sister. You should be proud. Just work on the things that you think needs improvement, like your social skills, your emotional skills, and how you present yourself to other people. Just improve in all aspects of your life that you want to work on. You might not be as good looking as your sister, and looks is something that you can't change, its something you're born with. Yes, you do have to work harder than her to get what you want. That's life. Not everyone is blessed with the same intelligence, looks, etc. But you also have an advantage over her, which is your smart. Personally i would trade intelligence for all those things. And you know, pretty girls don't always get what they want in life. they might get alot of guys, but they also have to go through alot of breakups. Also i heard that they don't look so well when they get older. And also since you've been through so many hardships you know what it's like in the real world and you know how to face it. your sister on the other hand, since she is pampered, will have no idea how to face those problems and will probably get hurt more when it hits her. But cmon, your sister is only 13, shes in middle school so she doesnt have to deal with those things yet. don't be upset. Just work hard, study hard, and become successful. I'm sure someday you'll find the right guy. It'll be a tough road ahead and you will have to work hard, but at the end of the day you know that you earned that success and not just whore your way through life like most pretty girls. I wish you the best of luck! =)
They may be giving her extra attention, but so far you have only been saying things about her looks. You are obviously the smart one and everyone had more time to fawn over you for the seven years before she was born. Time to give her a chance! And I'm sure she looks up to you as well, so be there for her and everything will end up well. :]
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