7 Responses for "I feel useless in a child situation? Help?"

1. selena gomez March 14th, 2010 at 1:13 pm 1

   Best Answer – Chosen by Voters Skin can break down very easily on a child. Do you have evidence of the accusations you are making? Proof that the diaper was not changed frequenty, that the child was fed the wrong milk?If this was your child, wouldn't you want to be given every chance at parenting it, particularly if you had previously failed to parent your other children? Wouldn't you expect and deserve help and support?If you were the child, wouldn't you deserve the right to be brought up by your own parents if it was at all possible.Be very accurate in what you say, if you have proof of your accusations then go and see the responsible authorities. Your friend is FOSTERING these children, she did so with the hope that they will return to their birth parents.If the birth parents, with support, fail to provide care over a period of time and different interventions and help, there is a possibility that the children may be placed in the care of the local authority.You start by saying 'I just feel a bit upset and end saying I am severely upset about this' be VERY clear of what you know, (can provide evidence of) and your own feelings. Children do best with their own families unless there is severe harm or neglect. The professionals will decide.What can you do. Be calm, report if you have real, clear, evidences. Otherwise, try to look at the children within this situation and their best long term interests, which usually are BEST met by staying with their birth families. If they are not, then support your friend by all means, but leave it in the hands of the professionals.

2. taylor lautner March 14th, 2010 at 1:13 pm 2

   Take it to a higher level, go to the cops, this is a serious situtation, I know what you mean, im only 13 and i feel like I cant do anything important in this kinda stuff. this is breaking the law,sort of a child abuse thing. Trust me go to the cops, or get an you trust to help you with it.

3. taylor swift March 14th, 2010 at 1:13 pm 3

   Its not a burn, its a diaper rash.Did they document the injuries? You can't do anything.This is not your family and not your concern.Im sure they are smart people that can deal with this.They should use common sense in order to prevent this from happening again.

4. miley cyrus March 14th, 2010 at 1:13 pm 4

   Tell DSS everything that you just said. If they don't do anything, call the police. Don't rest until these children are in safe hands.

5. selena gomez March 14th, 2010 at 1:13 pm 5

   call dss and continue to harass them into they look into it. they have to its thir job. and alert the cops if ya gotta anything to save tha kids.

6. lady gaga March 14th, 2010 at 1:13 pm 6

   Try, taking pictures when no one is around and showing them to an , try to get someone older to help you, but they can not stay there no matter, just try to get people to know about whats going on and then they can help you stop this, im not completely sure on this im not that old and im just saying what id do but i really do hope this helps, tell me how it goes if you get the chance too.

7. miley cyrus March 14th, 2010 at 1:13 pm 7

   i understand that you would want to help. if you know these things as fact beyond a doubt, take pictures and go to the authorities. mail it into dss if you have to. ON THE OTHER HAND: make sure you're not catching the tail-ends of conversations between s! i know that younger children tend to catch bits and pieces of conversations and then draw their own conclusions. if your friends seem to be truly helping these children, don't you think they'd do something about it themselves? if you're not sure, ask them! after all, they have custody right now…it is their responsibility. over all, i want you to make sure you're doing the absolute right and honest thing before jumping the gun here, because there's some major embarassment in sticking your nose into these matters heading your way if you're wrong!