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15 Mar
I feel too ugly to want to live…?
I'm 17 and in college….I'm a serious believer in intelligence over beauty, but I can't stop thinking like this…..I'm very active in amnesty international and I participate in other human rights activism, I also volunteer a lot….but whenever I look in the mirror I want to kill myself.
Like I said I'm 17…and I have never been had a boyfriend or even been kissed and I know there is so many more important things, but it still depresses me. I exercise lots and am at healthy weight and have a good skin condition and like I said wear make-up and do my hair….BUT my face just doesnt go together.
I've gone to phsychiatrists and they have said I have depression and put me on pills years ago, but they didn't really affect me in any way. However, therapy did help me develop confidence and social skills and self-esteem, which I have….except for my appearance…
And it's not like I am delusional about my appearance, I have been told many times that I'm ugly….What they say doesn't really bother me (I know they've their own issues) but even if they didn't say anything, I wouldn't be any prettier.
I guess I'm asking how can I get over myself and stop obsessing over my appearance and be happy with my outer appearance….I think my inner (personality) is pretty good (everyone can improve on that until they die) but I still hate looking at myself and I can barely afford college let alone plastic surgery…HELP
6 Responses for "I feel too ugly to want to live…?"
Best Answer – Chosen by Voters beauty of externality is fickle and relative, while internal beauty is permanent and absolute. Be good and modest and studious, and at least to me, yes just if only me, you are more beautiful than any other being on this earth. Forget the fake and painted so-called beauties, all vying for looks. wE NEED decent and honest people, not mannikins of superficial scripts. Live dear, and love will happen, I promise.
Beauty is more than what you see in a magazine. Once you are older and more mature what you think is beautiful will change, and you will embrace what you have. Source(s): my life
Inner beauty comes within.Think about your attributes. Find a good church where you will find friendship amongst people your age.Be involved in charities.
Wow i kinda know how you feel….i had bad acne for a while and then got accutane….but there is something you can do…you just have to keep looking,….there are lots of make up and hair tutorials and clothes make a person look great too … good luck and if you go the surgery route study non invasive techniques and look find a reputable doctor check his or her BBB rating and online reviews. but it seems bs but personality does make you prettier if you are outgoing and happy so build your self esteem and self confidence make yourself happy good luck
I spent only a few moments reading this, but already I can tell you are a person of integrity, sensitivity, kindness, and dynamism. Just the kind of person that people of real substance will desperately WANT as a partner. You may (or may not) be homely according to this society's standards. But not everyone accords with such pathetic aesthetics.But let's grant that you're dire homely. Straight up, it may never be easy on that score. But if switch mental tracks on this, you'll easily see how being homely can be a useful shibboleth. Yes, there WILL be boys that want to kiss you. But by your caring demeanor and intelligent pursuits, you have increased your likelihood of bumping into people who just don't give a fig for society's shallow expectations. You may soon find yourself staring into the eyes of a kind person who looks at you and sees only the purest beauty…Have the intellectual courage to admit that this is entirely likely. That hope, that openness of mind will help you remain fresh and clear in readiness for richer relationships which may find you soon.
You all aren't getting the point. She has self esteem and knows real beauty is on the inside. She just wants to know how she can be comfortable looking at herself in the mirror. That's really a tough question that only you can answer. I know exactly what you mean also, I used to feel the same way when I was younger (I'm still only 20). But I grew my hair out and my facial structure sort of changed. Now all of the girls back in highschool who used to mock me as the ugliest admit that I am rather cute now (Yes I am a guy). Your 17, your looks still have time to mature. If you think you've got a nice body, pay attention to it more. When you look in the mirror, admire your own body and ignore the face. That is really all I can say.
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