3 Responses for "I feel really ugly…what can I do?"

1. taylor lautner March 26th, 2010 at 5:29 am 1

   Trust me, I know the feeling..I'm very pale and very skinny too. It's just my natural state, now matter how much I eat or tan. I've learned to just love it, because it's me. And I look best this way, I guess!If you think you're looking sick, jusy try to take care of yourself as much as you can. Take baths and keep your hair washed and your legs shaved. You'll feel smooth and clean. Wear a little makeup, but not so much that it will get in your way and cover your face. It will make your eyes look brighter.Keep yourself smelling nice. Keep your skin moisturized.Try to eat healthy. If you're trying to maintain your weight, eat healthy-fats. It will make you feel better. I don't know if you like guacamole, but avacados will give you energy and are full of good fats. Peanut butter sandwiches. Eggs.Also, soaking up some vitamin D from the sun will make you feel good and might add some brightness to your skin.Listen to some good music. Sit by an open window. Chill. I dunno, put flowers in your hair or dance around in your bra and panties. Just embrace yourself. Have fun with your short hair and love your pale skin, and try to get healthy. Accept your natural body weight. Play with your eye makeup. Do a pedicure, buy a toering or some new earrings. Try to find some time to just be with your husband. Wrestle or hug or talk and just believe him when he says you're pretty. Go out and buy a new pair of panties and see how he likes them

2. taylor swift March 26th, 2010 at 5:29 am 2

   Honestly, I think that you just don't see the beauty of life. You're a newlywed! That's awesome. Now about your physical appearance, I would try going out with your friends and going to a spa or something This will make you feel better on the inside. Hey, I'm pale too But maybe make-up if you think that would make you feel "prettier." Good luck and live life the way you want to

3. justin bieber March 26th, 2010 at 5:29 am 3

   I am in agreeance with those who ask where your husband is on this issue. But not to worry too much dear, your feelings are nothing new under the sun. Meaning, we look back at people who have struggled with what you are going through and how it was resolved.Solomon's bride became self conscious of her looks and what we see is that Solomon/the husband returns to her with words of affirmation.5 Dark am I, yet lovely, O daughters of Jerusalem, dark like the tents of Kedar, like the tent curtains of Solomon. 6 Do not stare at me because I am dark, because I am darkened by the sun. My mother's sons were angry with me and made me take care of the vineyards; my own vineyard I have neglected. 7 Tell me, you whom I love, where you graze your flock and where you rest your sheep at midday. Why should I be like a veiled woman beside the flocks of your friends?She is self conscious of her own skin. In those times the darker your skin was, was a telltale sign that you were of a Workman's class. Because most work families spent their days in the sun, they often had darker tans, than those of higher class. But instead of letting her revel in her low class, lesser vessel mindset, Solomon overlooks those self-induced flaws and says9 I liken you, my darling, to a mare harnessed to one of the chariots of Pharaoh. 10 Your cheeks are beautiful with earrings, your neck with strings of jewels. 11 We will make you earrings of gold, studded with silver.Translation? You are more valuable than the most prized steed (that usually came out of Egypt)…oh and your hot…let's go buy you some jewelry to make you even hotter. The dialect goes on much further than that, but time and time again we see that any form of doubt that Solomon's wife has, is soon replaced with verbal expressions of what makes her desireable. So that's step one.Step two: I would recommend finding an outlet that best suits your character to keep you busy. I know what it is like to sleep to much and still just not feel rested, and feel worthless. You feel like a thorough bred turd. Sleep is great but too much sleep is worse. Talk to your husband to see what will work best for the both of you. (Harmony and agreeance is key…going out and doing your own thing will just create new issues of separation and neglect). Perhaps a job or a hobby, or inviting friends to the house should fix the drab of lethargy and worthlessness. If you don't know where to start try investing in a book called Strengths-Quest. It is about $20 and it is a test and a book that helps one define the strengths that make up your personality. It certainly helped me in choosing what I naturally love to do…helpiog people like you I hope this finds you wellSincerely signed, Benjamin B.