5 Responses for "I can't take it anymore!PLEASE HELP!!!?"

1. Vanessa Hudgens March 14th, 2010 at 11:05 am 1

   i know it sucks! but it sounds like she's jealous of you. even though she'd probably never admit that, i think that's what's at the root of all her behavior. she probably needs to just grow up more. just because she's a year older than you doesn't mean she's mature. she's still only 13. she has her own problems and insecurities and she's taking that out on you.you could ignore it, but i know that's difficult, and sounds nearly impossible. but if you can, and develop a thick skin, and learn not to give a f*ck, i think you'll find it's easier to deal with her.how about talking to your parents. both you and your sister are still young, so ask them if there's somewhere else you can sleep, or if they can talk to her about this. tell them exactly what you wrote here, and that you need help dealing with it. (my guess is that their advice will be than any answers that you get on here…)just make sure that you stand up for yourself. think of dealing with your sister as practice for when you have to deal with people when you get older. remind yourself of why she's acting the way she is, and tell yourself that you feel bad for her, because she's the one with the problems.what helps me when i can't talk to someone face-to-face is i write them a letter. it lets me say everything i need to say without having to directly tell them. this way they can't interrupt me or walk away, and they end up knowing exactly how you feel.also, what about being so nice to your sister? she probably likes being a b*tch because she knows it'll get a reaction out of you. so try "killing her with kindness", and whenever she throws you an insult, or is being mean, just laugh it off and smile. when she tells you that you're copying her, just say something like "it's because i look up to you" with a smile. it might take her a while to get used to this, but if you start showing her that you're not going to take her crap, and that you're just going to stop reacting to it, she'll probably stop.so i gave you a few things that you could do. it sounds like you're in a difficult situation, so there's no easy answer. also, why not trying to reach out to people at school and find some people to hangout with. it'll give you time away from your sister, and make you happy outside your home.good luck!

2. selena gomez March 14th, 2010 at 11:05 am 2

   jeni has a good answer choose her < —————————————-…

3. taylor lautner March 14th, 2010 at 11:05 am 3

   i think they r jealous of your beauty and talent!!! can u email me the 13 year old singer you like?

4. justin bieber March 14th, 2010 at 11:05 am 4

   You just have to ignore it. I would start killing her with kindness. Just be as nice and as understanding as you possibly can. Let everything she says to you roll right off your back. Deep down I seriously doubt that she means half of what she is saying. She is jealous of you.Start looking at her life. Take her feelings into consideration at every turn. Be supportive and complementary towards her. Most people who lash out like this are very insecure. Try to build her confidence up and maybe she will stop trying to tear yours down.Be patient and kind. Eventually she will wake up and start feeling horrible for how she is treating you.

5. selena gomez March 14th, 2010 at 11:05 am 5

   I'm sad for you. Your situation sounds so frustrating. I think one problem is space. it would help if you could find more of your own private space and time. Maybe you could hang out in your brothers' room sometimes instead of your bedroom or livingroom. The other problem is that since you are so close in age, your sister compares herself to you. Many girls her age feel awkward and cranky due to the hormones from puberty, but maybe for some reason, she especially feels inadequate and unsure about herself. If you can't find the space and time for now, then I think the best thing you can do for your mental and emotional survival is to PRAISE her more often. That's right, if you can sincerely praise and compliment her more often, then she will soften toward you. You sound like you're stronger in that you can tolerate disagreement and abuse more than her, so if you could continue with this plan even when she is occasionally mean to you, then within a few months she will be so addicted to hearing nice things coming out of your mouth about her, that you will become her hero. Make sure you also often praise her in front of people she admires (but don't overdo it or it will sound fake, and make sure the things you praise deserve to be praised.) Keep track with notches in your diary how many praises a day versus insults–and watch how the insults and meanness with time will decrease.You can do it, and you'll feel good about this as you do it. Good luck:) Source(s): I've been a younger sister.