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14 Mar
How to accept ugliness?
if there a how to get by plan for ugly people?
like i have all the sign that people think i am ugly this have been going on from i was little and yet to this day it still makes me cry and hurts my chest. one of the problem is that when i am alone i forget how ugly i am but when i leave the house i start to freak out i have missed alot of day in college because of this which is why i am so behind.
signs
no friends
never had bf
not even frist kiss
virgin
friends mum said
random people have told me
people give me weird looks
no one talks to me
mum keeps calling me pretty
i get used a lot
every picture i take looks bad
i dont get away wit things
teachers either dont like me or pity me
my brother told me
friends have told me
i havent got a job
when i would walk with a friend they would get chirped but never me
people dont ask me
i get laughed at in public
never called pretty
people always take the piss out of me
people i know ask me if i am ok …when i am just thinking
i spend all day in study centre in college
i nearly cried when i saw my reflection in public mirrors ,shopping windows and bus doors
i am really skinny with a boyish shape ,really dark skinned,big peanut head,yellow buck teeth,really hairy,big nose and protruding lips.low cheekbones,nappy hair receding hair line,big feet,pot belly,dark bags under eyes, small eyes and big forehead,big chin,low brows nothing is proportionate. asymmetric
i am really scared because i am not smart and naturally procrastinate even i have nothing better to do
and i dont have a good personality (seriously) i moan,***** ,boring,loser, dorky, pessimistic,cold hearted,unfriendly,selfish ,self centred,ungrateful,shy,socially unconscious,social anxiety,rude,unforgiving,people are uncomfortable around me,i am attracted to user and i dont know how to appreciate good people,aires,stingy …the list really does go on my personality is very fragmented but predictable at the same time.
so i know that i will no frills in life but i at least need to be able to get a job but that is really hard if your are black stupid and ugly.(suggestions)
how comes everyone else is average?
i keep daydreaming just to escape my life and make it that much shorter
do you know if there will be a day that i cant care any more also how can you see your self the way other see you?
please dont tell me beauty is in the eye of the beholder or protect my feeling that kind but doesn't help. or everyone is pretty. i have bad genes but i cant get mad at my mum because she didn't do it on purpose and she has done so much for me i love her.
11 Responses for "how to accept ugliness?"
i'm ugly as well, but whatever who gives a ****!
just do what i do… act like you don't care. People will eventually stop and they will get bored and to get friends, just be yourself, i did that and i have a lot of friends
someone just asked this question…..check the question that was just asked and take my advice!!!
how long did it take you to think of this?
I literally just asked a question just like this a few minutes ago! I guess we're in this together.Yeah,I hate when people tell you those cheesy 'everyone is pretty' lines. I think you should start by making yourself presentable.Have a shower,,make sure you end up smelling nice and hair is clean and soft hopefully.(Mine just goes frizzy lol)Any spots,when I dont have spot cream,I dab a little tooth paste on them and it clears them up pretty quick.To keep my skin soft I use Nivea Creme.it smells great and skin feels soft too! Wear your dress sense but make sure your clothes arent too baggy and that they are always clean.Same goes for shoes.Personality wise,sorry but you gotta change that one on your own.I'd be happy to help you through this,but since I dont know you and probably live thousands of miles away,that aint gonna happen.Smile more,even if your crying on the inside.Fake it until you feel it. NO-ONE likes seeing or talking to someone with a scowling face and bad attitude.I learnt the hard way a few years back.Hope this helped you.
Even if your aren't the best looking or even average, your personality and character play a big role in how you are perceived. Maybe it is about time you change who you are for the better, since apparently you are unhappy the way you are. Stop procrastinating and find some motivation to succeed. See a psychologist to find out why your personality is as it is.
If you're aware about negative aspects of your personality, you can work to change them. You've got friends and you and your mum care about each other a lot, so I'm sure you're not as bad a person as you think.Almost everything on your list is something some people like, something you can fix with easy makeup tricks or bleaching your teeth, get your hair straightened and worn in bangs, the right shoes, some sit-ups or flattering clothes, more sleep and a good dose of standing up straight and smiling.I would say bleach your teeth definitely. You're right that most employers care how you look, to a degree. Better looking teeth and a professional, flattering wardrobe help a lot.
aww don't be upset! im sure you will find someone…have hope in yourself and god! remember, god brought you to earth to live, not worry. you have one life…make the most of it! who cares if others don't like you, but you know that there are certain qualities in you, that are even better than your appearance. you know it. have faith… Source(s): Hope I've made you feel better… *!now smile!*
Some of the things you mentioned seem to me like you can help them…I mean, overall, I think you should just make more of an effort at your self-image goals.For example, if you haven't already done so, getting your eyebrows done makes a huge difference even though you might not think of it. Or, if you're hairy, just shave. Just make an attempt at fixing some of what you see as flaws. I, at least, find that as long as you look /healthy/ and have a nice attitude, it's not hard to look at least somewhat pretty. If all you focus on is negatives, and that's all you put forth, then that's all people are going to see. (I know it's cliche, but it's true).And also, I believe you will become much less physically self-conscious if you just adopt new areas of interest. Distractions. Hobbies. Get out more and focus on /anything/ but yourself. That would help you immensely. If you had more to life, then your appearance would matter that much less.But, as for me, while I kind of know what you're going through, I wouldn't try to just stop caring about this altogether…like I said, make an effort at attractiveness; just get some excercise, be healthy, and dress nicely. If you at least feel better, it will show through and outshine some of your physical "flaws."Bottom ilne-Don't think of "accepting" ugliness. Change yourself. Strive for what you want and don't give up:) Source(s): experience, friends
oh my gosh that'sis crazy, you should be happy with you. God gave you one body and one life and that's all your ever gonna get so make the best of it. So what if people tell you your unattractive, screw them. Give em' the finger and do somethin nice with it. Be YOU not what they want you to be. I'm assuming your grown since you mentioned college? Grow up, what seems big to you, is like a tiny ant to everyone else. They won't murder you, just grow up put some makeup on, straighten your hair if you have any and move on.
Im sorry I couldnt read all of that. But even the title of the question upsets me.You clearly have a very low self esteem so im not going to lecture you on how beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But in all honesty there has to be SOMETHING you like about yourself. Even if its just something small like you have nice hands, nice lips, nice eyes. .etc. You cant go through life comparing yourself to others. Just be the best you can be. Try to feel good about yourself by working out, painting your nails, dressing nice, putting on some makeup to enhance your features or even getting a new hair style. Eventually, you WILL find a guy who loves you. I think you need to learn to love yourself before anything. That confidence will radiate , and not only do guys find that sexy but you will feel 10x better about yourself. The most popular guy in my highschool back in the day was about 300 pounds and ugly as sin but he was the FUNNIEST guy so girls dated him and guys wanted to be friends with him. Its all how you perceive things. STAY STRONG, hang in there. You are beautiful your just to stubborn to let yourself truly see it.
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