9 Responses for "For women- Would this bother you?"

1. miley cyrus March 14th, 2010 at 11:55 am 1

   That's a very weird porn addiction. If he doesn't want YOU to do it, and he wants the toys because of the way that they feel against his skin, then he is addicted. I'm sorry to say but you may want to see about dropping him. Porn addiction is a serious problem expecially when it starts to interfere with real sex. You may want to dig a little deeper and see about all the types of porns that he is watching. You never know when the FBI will be knocking on your door wanting to seize your computer because of teen/child pornography. Is the porn addiction interfering with work? Do you think he may be cheating on you? If you answered yes to these two questions then obviously there may be something more going on then just watching it online. Everytime my husband and I have watched porn it has always been together. I have no reason to look at men or women having sex without him and he has no reason either without me. Since we are married our fantasies get fulfilled by each other, not by watching porn and then imagining it. If my husband ever told me that he just wanted to watch the porn instead of doing it with me I think I would throw his things out the window. LOL. You may want to try one more talk with him and express your concerns. You are his wife so you should be able to tell him how you feel and how horrible it is for you to know that he would watch some woman on a computer but won't watch you, his wife, in real life. Tell him that you will try things that don't push the boundaries to much and that you would like for him to leave the porn alone unless you are going to watch it together and then do some of the things that happened. If he still doesn't give in and start doing the things with you and give up porn then its time to let him go. You should also seek counseling (marriage) to get better communications with each other. It may sound weird and he may want to run when the idea is presented but talking to a Preacher or someone within the church can really help too. I know a lot of people in the church that deal with couples that have these same problems on a weekly basis. Its just easier to talk to someone who isn't there 24/7 sometimes to really get your feelings out.Good luck, and if I can help anymore my email is always open!

2. selena gomez March 14th, 2010 at 11:55 am 2

   Your husband obviously feels that he 'needs' the fetish to become aroused but it's possible he feels guilty about it so he hides it and his porn watching.No it doesn't bother me as a woman when my other half watches porn, I like to watch it too, with him or on my own but it shouldn't become a huge issue in your relationship. It's good that you have approached him about sorting it out but maybe a few sessions with a relationship and sexual therapist together can help. Source(s): I'm a relationship and sexual therapist.

3. selena gomez March 14th, 2010 at 11:55 am 3

   That's a strange fetish…anyway he should let you watch porn with him if that's what you want. No I don't mind my hubby watching it, he doesn't do it every day though. Does he get off to the porn? Does he have sex with you? I would be offended if I was you, because he don't want you doing what he likes watching other women do, and bc he hides it.

4. taylor lautner March 14th, 2010 at 11:55 am 4

   It wouldn't bother me if I was getting what I needed and wanted from the relationship. If his "fetishes" were in the "way" of "us", then it would bother me. I think EVERYDAY is a little extreme tho-

5. justin bieber March 14th, 2010 at 11:55 am 5

   Really? A balloon fetish?If this is real, he's keeping you separated from his fetish – that is not necessarily a bad thing.How the rest of your sex-life? It sounds like he's edging on addiction [lose of control].

6. taylor lautner March 14th, 2010 at 11:55 am 6

   No, you are NOT crazy. Fetish is right. Good luck.

7. justin bieber March 14th, 2010 at 11:55 am 7

   no it wouldnt bother me, as long as he was also willin to try and use it to help our sex life.

8. taylor swift March 14th, 2010 at 11:55 am 8

   no ur husband has a porn addiction. wussup with the toys and ballons thats a little weird

9. lady gaga March 14th, 2010 at 11:55 am 9

   oh god it's balloon boi, posing as a chick now.