3 Responses for "Baby steps to improving my self-esteem?"

1. justin bieber March 14th, 2010 at 8:25 am 1

   ok well first id like to say congrats on the eating well, taking care of yourself and stuff like that, im sure you feel a lot better with that already done! and no worries i am the same most of the time with a lottt of people! i donno wat it is either.. i just become quiet and i wanna walk away!! but then i just realized while reading your question, i have one guy friend who ive been rlly close with for a while now, and when im with him.. i just am never bored, and im always talkative.. and im that fun person i wanna be! but i think the reason why its like that is because we got to know each other a lot.. and through time we just got a rlly good friendship.. so i think thats wat you need to do.. just try and let those people into your life slowly… try hanging out with those who you feel most comfortable with (with your friend) to the movies or something.. or hang out during lunch.. and try and get to know each one.. and dont be shy.. when they talk.. you can talk too! and this way they'll see you interested in talking back.hope ive helped! good luck ?

2. selena gomez March 14th, 2010 at 8:25 am 2

   Try joining some clubs in school and the community, any club with other people will do. Drama clubs especially tend to help people act confident. It might be out of your comfort zone to join one of these clubs, but it will definitely help. If you don't already have a job and have time for one, I'd HIGHLY advise getting a job. Preferably somewhere that requires interaction with people, like on counter at a fast food place or grocery store. Not only do you get to make money, but you get to interact with strangers and this can really help you get comfortable with people. Also, you might find some new friends in your co-workers. Did I mention you get Money? Source(s): http://www.stumbleupon0o0com/

3. Vanessa Hudgens March 14th, 2010 at 8:25 am 3

   Congratulations on already taking steps to enjoy and improve your life.When you're in an unfamiliar situation or around new people, I think a key thing is to listen and observe at first. Expect your experiences to always be limited, but see new ones as educational opportunities, not threats. Try to be as agreeable and peaceable with strangers as possible without compromising with what's wrong. You could become friendly by starting with small talk after listening awhile.Don't compare yourself with others and learn to resist negative people's comments about you. Your value doesn't change because some don't agree with or like you. As you think, you become. If you find yourself thinking and saying your confidence is 3 or less, change your self-talk; it will define your choices, actions, and destiny. Real confidence and self-esteem can improve when you allow God to change you from within. It's a relationship, and He made you to become like Him in character,and prepare to spend eternity with Him. This is your purpose, not to spend time pleasing or impressing people. God gives strength, boldness, confidence, peace, and alot more to those who trust in and stick with Him, through Jesus Christ. It's NOT religion, but a relationship. If you don't have this relationship, start letting Him live through you in every situation by praying the following:"Dear Lord Jesus, come into my heart. Forgive me of my sin. Wash me and cleanse me. Jesus, thank You that You died for me so I would have eternal life. I believe that You are the Son of God who rose from the dead and that You’re coming back again for me. I'll live for you. Help me to see myself the way You love and see me. Grant me boldness to face any situation. Thank you, Lord for saving me and making my life more meaningful. Amen." If you meant what you prayed, welcome to God's family! Now stay in contact by talking to the Lord everyday, and follow an easy-to-read Bible daily, starting with St. John. Make real friends at a Bible-teaching church and tell others how Jesus has made a difference in your life. Personally, I was a negative person, frustrated, insecure, fearful, and aimless for years. It took an ongoing, committed relationship with Jesus, being planted and consistent involvement in my church, to blossom out of my shell. He has no favorites and can help you in any area of your life if you put God first.Check the sources below. Source(s): http://www.allaboutlifechallenges.org/se…From biblegateway0o0com (New International Reader's Version): Psalm 139:13-17; Colossians 1:15-16; Romans 3:23; 10:9-10; Isaiah 40:28-31; Proverbs 14:26; 2 Peter 1:4; Matthew 7:7-8; James 4:7http://docs.purposedriven.org:8088/docs/… (Requires Acrobat Reader) (begins @ page 5)